As you can tell, I took a little time off from my blogging. I was in a very bad accident in August of last year. Again, I have gained all the weight back. Also my home life has been very hectic. We just went a week without home heating oil at the end of winter. The average days was 32° in the daytime and it would fall to 19° at night. I was actually miserable. I thought as I failed my family. Here we are hiding in two bedrooms with space heaters with all the animals just to keep warm.
Things are starting to get better. I have started counseling for my PTSD from the accident. Unfortunately, I have to fire my current counselor. She has canceled all four of my appointments in one month. I see her once a week. With all the elements of stress in my life I really needed To talk with her. After she canceled for four weeks in a row, she still had the nerve to tell me that she never canceled appointments. I am still in the care of four doctors. Next week, I will be starting PT for my back. If the interventions do not work; I will be going under to have nerve blocks lumbar puncture procedures done.
I am disappointed in myself for not keeping up with this blog. There is some good news though. My oldest-autistic-son is not graduating this year. He is not ready for college at this point. I had him held back a year; so he can focus on his reading comprehension and writing. He needs learn organization. He needs to learn good study skills. His problem is not so much knowledge inside the books; because, he does know that he is a very smart child. I been pulling my hair out with my sons school for about six years now. He has not learned disability on his IEP. He was constantly not reaching his goals. I am going to these meetings, and just get frustrated. We were always at a standstill matter what I did. So I called the Autism alliance in my state. The woman on the other end of the phone, was Heidi. Heidi is absolutely wonderful. She is able to many doors for my oldest son. He is fine getting the help that he needs. She has guided me through the IEP process. She made sure that I got independent evaluation of his IEP. She also got me in touch of a great lawyer in family law. My sons school knows that I am not playing anymore. Take this last IEP for example:
I was attempting to have Heidi come in for one of our meetings. Heidi gave them a long list of available times that she could meet with the whole team. There was about eight or nine different dates and times in Heidi's letter. I am not Heidi's only client. Heidi is the one at the Autism alliance that specializes in coming and representing the parents at the IEP meeting. We had a set date and time. Then the school had to reschedule, and a reschedule, reschedule, and reschedule. They rescheduled the meeting so much that we actually went over my son expiration date for his IEP. I think this was I she afraid of Heidi; because, of her reputation. She has a passion for the the children she represents. It got to the point were they were rescheduling the appointments without our knowledge of the meeting times. They called me while I was in school asking me why I did not attend the meeting. They swore that they had a confirmation from me. I asked in the show me my acceptance for the meeting and writing. They could not produce those documents. If I can tell you anything, and you take away anything, from this blog; please, please, please always get everything in writing. It will save you a ton of headaches later on. If you have a special needs child; please document everything, have a journal, record everything that you do not the child every cent you spend on them. The schools are trying to cut their budgets as much as possible. When I stuck my son in the charter school, they did not even have a special ed program. So, during a meeting iron of calling shenanigans on the school psychologists, the autism team, and the guidance counselor. I caught them in a lie. I made sure that their attempted deception were in the meeting notes. I also signed the meeting notes on the paragraph where the lie is recorded. I am finally getting for my son.
Do not let anyone tell you, because you have a special needs child, that the "no Child left behind law" gives the teachers a free pass to promote your student even though they are not exceeding. That is utter and total bullshit. My son cannot read novels. His handwriting looks like someone from kindergarten is writing. He cannot write paragraphs in proper AP style. He cannot even fill out a job application. But yet the school sees it fit to pass him, and let him graduate due to him having an IEP. The shit that is poured here in high school will never fly in college. I want to give him the best tools possible so he can succeed in college, and get a kick ass job.
The youngest is doing fine. We are having potty training issues with him. He does not have accidents, but I let him ONCE pee in a Mountain Dew bottle so he would not have to go outside in the freezing-cold to use the bathroom. I mean we were in the middle of nowhere in the state of Maryland. There were no rest stops, no buildings, Only farmland as far as the eye could see. Now he finds the need to use everything but the toilet to collect his feces and urine. I am sure this is just a fascination. I hope I can quickly end this curiosity. Either that or I am going to buy him a shove, and show him how to use the bathroom when he go camping.
Even with all the stress we been going through were okay. We made it through this tough time, and I am sure to make it through many more. Today's Valentine's Day. Again I am starting this blog. I will not delete the past stories; Because, they actually how hard it is to maintain a healthy lifestyle. OK. I possibly have the most stressful job, I am a part-time student at two different colleges, I am raising a special-needs teen and a toddler, but yet I find the time to come on here and tell you how doing. You reading this blog. You give me strength. You make me feel like I am accountable for my actions. I know I have restarted this journey many, many times. But I feel my heart of hearts that I can do at this time. I successes of other diets but I did not document them at the time. I have a bunch of works in progress that I need to finish and upload. So be prepared to see a lot of activity in the next week. Majority of it will be addressed over the weekend. I plan on saying two hours aside for me to get my transition finished; working my paperwork for my national registry; and start finally piecing my life back together.
Thank you for all you have done for me. Giving me words ofencouragement when I really need them. This blog will also continue with my journeys with the kids and my husband. I am going to stop slacking and get my shit together. I need this, not for just me. I need to make this change for my kids. I need to make this change my husband. And especially the need to make this change for the community that I served.
The tools I will be using are as follows: P90 X Lean, Sparkspeople.com-for meal planning, Fit bit to measure my daily steps and sleep, myfitnesspal.com also for food consumption( have a great scanning program to make sure you are eating right foods. Just scan the barcode annual have the entire nutritional list at the fingertips), and lastly https://www.fitocracy.com (when I feel better) so I can stay motivated. There is no better app for free weights. My username noise programs is scribbles412. Add me, friend me, tweet me, or just silently follow my ventures.
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The Lazy Housewife
“No diet will remove all the fat from your body because the brain is entirely fat. Without a brain, you might look good, but all you could do is run for public office.”
George Bernard Shaw
